Where to find friends
Spend more time in the company of other people. If you want to make friends with someone, you need to start socializing more. If you go to school or university, try to sit down with a stranger. There is no need to join the busiest or most popular companies – just try to sit where several people are already sitting. Popular people will play no role in your life when you’re older, and a close friend will always be there if you’re loyal to him or her yourself.
Join a club or any other organization where there are people with the same interests as you. You may not have many common hobbies, and often the strongest friendships are formed just in people who have little in common. If you like something specific, look for the right place. You can meet a lot of new people there. Social networking sites are also good for dating and getting to know more about the person you like. In a conversation, ask if the person has an account on one of the social networks.
Join a sports team. Very often people mistakenly think you have to play very well to make friends with people on a team, but not all sports require a strong competitive spirit. If you enjoy a certain sport and are willing to support your fellow teammates, try joining some team where your level of play will not be uncomfortable or frustrating. If you play a musical instrument or sing, try putting together a band or start singing in a choir.
Talk to people. You can join a club, go to different events, and do other things, but you won’t get to know anyone if you don’t talk to people. At the same time, there’s no need to belong somewhere if you’re already social, because every time you talk to someone, you’ll have an opportunity to make a new friend. Just talk to anyone: a salesperson in a bookstore, a neighbor in a compartment or on a bus, or someone sitting across from you in the cafeteria. Most conversations will end up going nowhere and you’ll probably never talk to that person again, or you’ll just become buddies, but sometimes friendships are formed under these circumstances.
Offer to meet. You can talk for hours about different things, but if you do not create the conditions for a new meeting, you do not have a friend. This is especially important if you met the person under conditions that are unlikely to ever be repeated. Don’t try to impose a friendship. Don’t call repeatedly if the person doesn’t pick up the phone, and don’t drop by without an invitation. Don’t stay away for too long. Don’t pressure people – let things run their course. It’s perfectly natural to want to get as much as possible of something good, but try not to impose. If you’re not sure if your relationship is moving at the right speed, ask your new friend about it. If something is going too fast, the person may get scared, but not everyone can ask to slow down. More often than not, the person will simply try to distance themselves.
Don’t limit yourself to communicating with one person. Try to keep in touch with other people so you can always keep yourself busy with something if one of your friends can’t meet you. Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Ask people questions about them and show interest in their interests.tTry to make friends with the person sitting next to you or someone who looks lonely. Perhaps these people need companionship. Learn to entertain others. You should have something interesting to make people come to you again and again. Of course, if you’re the only one with a video game console, that won’t be the best reason to gather friends, but on the other hand, it will give you a chance to socialize with people and for them to get to know you better.